life – Life with Charli

“I wish I had your brain”.

That’s what a classmate once told me in college. That classmate was from a science class I took. The professor of that class liked to give shoutouts to students who received the top mark on her exams. During my time in her class, I always received the top mark on her exams. My performance in the class led to the previously mentioned quote from my classmate during a conversation.

Little did that classmate know that I actually struggle with a learning disability that makes math and science very difficult for me. Due to my challenges with my disability, I decided to take the science class alone with no other classes. It also helped that I didn’t have a family to take care of (still don’t). All this to say that you don’t know what a person might be dealing with. I wasn’t so successful in that class because I was smarter than everyone. I was successful because I knew myself and my limitations. Based on my limitations and strengths, I did what was best for me to succeed.

Math and science aren’t my only problem areas. I have a hard time with processing information, and that causes me to take longer to complete tasks than my peers. I’m a pretty good writer, and but I can take a while to properly sort out my ideas and thoughts. I also get tired easily, so extra time and breaks are a must when working on tasks. That leaks into my blogging.

Some readers who visit my blog might notice that it takes me a while to respond to comments. You might notice the same issue on my social media platforms. It’s not that I want to take a long time to respond. It’s just a struggle to keep up with all the tasks I have to complete for my blog. The beautiful thing about blogging, though, is you can move at your own pace. For my health, both physical and mental, I have taken plenty of breaks from my blog, and I have given myself enough time to respond to comments and socialize.

So, if I take a while to get to back to you here on the blog or on social media, I apologize. Know I haven’t forgotten about you. I’m just doing what is best for my wellbeing. If you are a fellow blogger and influencer, especially if you are a disability advocate with a disability, know that it is completely alright to take breaks. You don’t have to fight against your disability. You know your limitations, and you’re just doing what’s best for you.

Take care of yourselves, and see you in the next post.

I just received a notification from WordPress that said I’ve published over 100 posts on the platform! Yay me! But seriously, this is wonderful. One of my fears when I started blogging was that I would run of ideas to write. Here I am nearly six years and 100 posts later, and I’m still going. I started this blog because I believe everyone has an interesting and important story to tell, and I wanted to share mine.

Sharing my story and experiences has been a wonderful journey so far. I’ve talked a lot about my experience with a genetic disorder called Turner syndrome on my blog. For years after I was diagnosed as a teenager, I kept my condition to myself, only sharing it with a very select few people. As I grew older, I started advocating for myself, and I needed people to understand what my day to day life is like as a woman with Turner syndrome. This inspired me to share my story. One of my first blog posts was “Imperfectly Perfect: Life with Turner Syndrome”. The truth is, I actually wrote this blog post for a major magazine. I submitted it, but never heard back from any representative from the magazine company. That’s when I decided to create my own platform. That’s how Life with Charli came about! I was nervous about starting a blog, but I realized that if I wanted more awareness on Turner syndrome, I needed to be comfortable with sharing my story.

I have also talked a lot about dealing with mental illness on my blog. I have mentioned many times on my blog that was hesitant to start therapy and medication for my mental illness. To be honest, even up to the time I started my blog, I was still hesitant. However, I noticed a lot of other bloggers boldly talking about mental illness with no shame. Then, one day, I asked on one of X, then Twitter, if anyone would like to share their story on my blog.

I was so happy when I got a response from a fellow writer Lesley Skinner. When Lesley told me that she wanted to write about mental illness, I gladly collaborated with her and published “Christianity and Mental Health”. Around that time, a fellow blogger, Nadine, shouted me out as a fellow mental health advocate.

I was shocked, because I didn’t see myself as one. However, I happily accepted the praise. It wasn’t really my intention to focus on mental health, but looking back, that was a topic I have been talking about from my very first post “This is Life: Your Purpose, Your gift”, which focused on self love. Other early posts that followed also focused on mental health, like “Judgements and Assumptions”, which focused on social anxiety. I just did not realize how connected to mental health those posts were. I was just writing my experience. Amazingly, people were listening responding so positively to what I had to say. Little did my fellow bloggers know, though, that I was listening to them too. I decided to reach out for help with my mental illness like so many of my fellow bloggers, and was officially diagnosed with depression and borderline personality disorder.

It felt so good to finally be getting help. I’m very grateful to the bloggers who have had an influence on my mental health and blogging journey. With the beautiful feedback I have been receiving throughout my time blogging, I know my story has reached others as well. For instance, a beautiful soul took the time to send this email to me:

A very warm thankyou to you my friend, and to all those who have been supporting me through all this time. If you are sharing your story online like me, know that people are watching and listening. You are making an impact on someone’s life. Keep sharing your story.

Thankyou for visiting and helping me celebrate 100 published posts. Here’s to 100 more.

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