Marilyn Monroe and Ella Fitzgerald

Drunk History Episode “Legends” Season 4 Episode 2 by Comedy Central

How many of you have heard of Marilyn Monroe? How many of you have heard of Ella Fitzgerald? How many of you knew that these two legends were close friends? I first learned this fact through an episode of the show Drunk History. I found this little gem recently. It aired in 2016, so I’m late seeing it, but I thought the episode was pretty funny. I also thought there was a wonderful lesson that could be learned from it: sometimes we have more in common than we think.  

Checkout Drunk history video above, if you haven’t seen it already, to learn more about the friendship of two legends.

2021: My Hiatus and Looking Ahead

I know I’m late, but Happy 2021 everybody! Last year was definitely rough for everyone, so I hope you were all able to have a good start to the year! Here’s to hoping 2021 will be better and brighter!

I know I’ve been away for a while. I really needed the hiatus to focus, and my focus last year was on my holistic health, meaning my mental, physical, and spiritual health. I’ve reached a point in my life that I used to call “the pause button period”. Life slowed down a bit for me, and that left me feeling worthless and useless. My plans for my future were not coming to fruition like I wanted them to. Unexpected events started to send me on a downward spiral. I felt like a lot of stumbling blocks were being placed in my way. Then the pandemic started, and everything slowed down even more. It seemed like my life was put on pause. 

Little did I know that this pause was actually a blessing. As some of you probably already know, I finally decided to start seeing a therapist. Let me tell you, it’s a good thing that I’m at a slow point in my life right now, because one thing I learned from my sessions is that going through therapy is not easy! You have to work hard, and you have to practice a lot! Change is not going to happen over night! The job of the therapist is to give you the tools you need to mange your mental illness. Your job is to practice using those tools so that using them when you need them becomes second nature. In short, I had been neglecting my mental health slightly for years, and this break has given me a chance to fix that. 

This little hiatus period also allowed me to do a little introspection. I have been spending time asking myself a lot of questions trying plan my future and take control of my life. Taking the time to learn more about myself has been amazing and rewarding. They say that no one can love you better than you love yourself (one of my siblings keeps reminding me of that). I’ve always struggled with self-esteem, but I’m learning to love myself more and more each day. I’m also feeling genuinely happier these days. 

All in all, I’m heading in to the new year with a new attitude, new plans, and optimistic feelings. I hope you’ve all been enjoying the new year so far, and are feeling as optimistic as I am! Until new time!

  • Charli

#blackouttuesday — Nova’s Namastè 365 Online

I see you. I hear you. I cry with you. I hurt when you hurt. I hate the injustice, too. I stand with you. I stand for equality. I stand even if I receive backlash. I can walk streets without fear. I can wear clothes without fear. I can purchase at a store, at night… […]

#blackouttuesday — Nova’s Namastè 365 Online

From my beautiful friend Nova over at Nova Namaste 365 Online. Let’s stand in solidarity to build a world where we can all feel safe and equal; where we can notice differences, but appreciate and embrace as well. Love and peace everyone.

  • Charli Dee

Depression and Anxiety: The Start of a Recovery Journey

Hi everyone! 

For those who might not know, May is mental awareness health month! It just so happens that I’ve been working on taking care of my mental health during the month, which is why I’ve been a little inactive lately. I’ve recently met an awesome mental health blogger, Chaz from Mental Health 360! She kindly offered to let me write a guest post for her blog, which is about my struggles with my mental health! I’ve been sharing a little about my mental health struggles on my blog, and this latest post gives a more in depth look at my journey over the years! Click here to give the post a read! While you’re there, take a look around Caz’s blog! She’s a retired mental health professional, so you will find a lot of wonderful resources there! You can learn a lot from her blog! 

Remember that mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of. Take care of each other and yourselves.

Until next time,

– Charli

Ten Years from Now: Challenge 6

Ten years from now seems so far away, especially to someone who is trying to figure out what she might be doing even a year from now. I’m doing a bit of self-discovery right now. I’m not completely sure of where I want to be in life at the moment. With that being said, I’m not sure where I want to be in ten years.

The Coronavirus pandemic added to the uncertainty. Some of my plans I had for this year were put on hold because of the crisis, and I’m not sure when I can focus on them again. I’m sure I’m not the only one who is uncertain about the future because of the virus. Many people lost their jobs, and don’t know when they will be getting their next pay checks. 

As the saying goes, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail”. Planning is an important part of life, but so is uncertainty and unexpected events. As I mentioned earlier, I’m exploring. I don’t know what I will be doing ten years from now. I just hope that by then, I will feel more confident and sure of myself. Thanks for visiting! See you in the next challenge post! 

My Favorite Holiday: Thanking Essential Workers

Hello everyone, and welcome to my next challenge post! This post is about my favorite holiday, challenge number 5. I’ve actually done a post about my favorite holiday already, which is Thanksgiving!  It’s the day set aside for us to show appreciation for the blessings in our lives. If I had to say one thing I’m grateful for at the moment, I would say the essential workers risking their lives right now. 

My family and I have been self isolating for a couple of weeks now, and have been depending on delivery services. We have been getting our food and supplies through those services, and that is also how I’ve been getting my medicine. I’ve been pretty open about having Turner syndrome. It is a genetic disorder that can cause a whole host of complications. I have some of those complications, and I take medicine to manage most of them. Taking my medicine as prescribed is very essential in order for me to keep my health from deteriorating. I’m able to continue taking my medicine because of pharmacists, postal workers, and other essential workers who make it possible, the workers who go out and risk their lives.

Thankyou to the medical workers, postal workers, warehouse workers, store workers, and all the essential workers going out to work each day. Thankyou for all you are doing during this time of crisis. This post is for you. Until next time. 

Top Five Places I’d like to Visit

Hello again all, and welcome to the next post in my 52 week challenge! In this post, I will be talking about places I would love to visit! Considering travel is very restricted at the moment due to the coronavirus epidemic, the fact that the topic for my next blog post challenge is about travel is a little ironic. Hopefully we will see some normality in our day to day lives soon! In my blog posts and social media tags I have participated in before, I have often been asked about places that I have visited or would like to visit. For places that we have visited, my answer is always the same: I don’t travel much! For places I would like to visit, my answers tend to change slightly, because there are many places I would love to visit! Sometimes seeing pictures of certain places is just not enough! It’s good to visit and see the sights for yourself! Also, I love to write! Visiting different places and going through new experiences helps to open up creativity! Like I said, there are many places I would love to visit, however, I was only asked to name five! Below is my list of five out of many places I would love to see someday!

  1. Canada – I’ve always wanted to see Niagara Falls! They look so beautiful, and I would love to see them in person! I also want to see the Northern Lights, or the Aurora Borealis, and I know Canada is one of the places I can go to catch them! 

2. Spain – I can speak a little Spanish, but I would love to perfect this skill and become fluent! I’m sure visiting a country where the dominant language, or where one of the dominant languages, is Spanish would be very helpful, and Spain is one of those countries I would like to visit.

3. Costa Rica – I’ve heard great things about this country! The people are happy and healthy! In fact, some of the people there are so healthy that one area in Costa Rica is known as a “Blue Zone”! That area is Nicoya. Blue zones areas where people seem to live longer than average. Not only do the people live longer than average, they also live productive and active lives well into old age. This is not exactly the reason I want to visit Costa Rica though! I want to visit because this is another Spanish country I would like to stay in for a while to develop my Spanish speaking skills! Costa Rica also looks like a beautiful country for a relaxing vacation!

4. One the Caribbean Islands – I know this might seem like a cheat since I didn’t pick one island, but I just couldn’t pick just one! I would like to go to any one of the Caribbean islands, or as many as I can! Pretty much all of them are seen as great places for a vacation, and have beautiful beaches! The most talked about islands are generally Jamaica, the Bahamas, and Barbados. Maybe I’ll visit one those countries!

5. Japan – I’ve always loved learning about different cultures, and Japanese culture is one I’ve been particularly fascinated with for a long time. The Japanese Kimono (traditional Japanese dress) and Sakura trees (cherry blossom trees) are so beautiful to me. I would love to visit Japan and learn more about the country and visit some beautiful sites, maybe see some Sakura trees for myself. I would also love to try some traditional Japanese treats like Mochi (Japanese rice cakes), dango (Japanese dumplings), and red bean paste. Maybe while I’m in Japan I might learn how to speak a little Japanese! 

And those are my five places! What five places would you like to visit? Thanks for stopping by! See you in my next challenge post!

Meet my Favorite Things

Hello everyone! Welcome back to another challenge post! This week’s post will be about my favorite things, challenge number two! My favorite things are my books and my journals. I mentioned on my blog and social media many times how much I love reading and writing. They’ve been two of my favorite activities since I was a small child. My parents even told I tried reading a newspaper upside down when I was a baby. 

Reading and writing go hand in hand, and that is very much the case for me. I always enjoyed the different ways authors shared their stories. I loved getting lost in the thoughts of the characters and what they thought about themselves, each other, and their surroundings. I grew to love and appreciate writing as a form of expression, and as I grew older I realized I express myself best through writing. Communication is second nature to many of us. It’s done so naturally. For others, not so much. When talking with someone in person, I sometimes struggle to express myself. I often have repeat myself in conversations, because I tend to mumble, and that’s when I actually decide to speak. Whenever I’m writing, however, I have a completely different experience. I’m not shy one bit, and my thoughts flow freely. I feel uninhibited, free to be myself. It is a wonderful feeling. 

And those are my favorite things! Thanks for visiting! Feel free to share some of your favorite things in the comments if you like, and stay tuned for my next challenge post!

Mental Health 2: Meeting my Mental Health Specialists

Around the end of January, I mentioned in a recent post that I visited a mental health clinic. I was given an appointment to see a psychologist  and psychiatrist two weeks after my walk-in visit. For those who don’t know, a psychologist specializes in counseling and therapy. A psychiatrist focuses on treating mental illnesses mainly through medication. When I met with my therapist, she asked more questions to learn a little bit more about me, why I was seeking counseling, and what I wanted to get out of counseling. She was so understanding, and talked with me about the type of therapy I would be receiving and how it can help me. 

That same week, I also met with my psychiatrist. She asked questions as well, and patiently talked with me about treatment options (whether or not to take medication, types of medications she recommended, etc). Both my therapist and psychiatrist immediately diagnosed me with Major Depressive Disorder. I was very nervous at the start of the visits, as I have never received treatment for a mental illness before, but my therapist and psychiatrist made me feel extremely comfortable. I even cried more like during my first visit to the clinic. After talking with them, I finally realized how overdo these visits were. I feel like I’m finally taking control.

If you feel that you also need help with your mental health, please reach out for assistance. You might be happy you did. Right now, the world is going through a pandemic, and many people are in isolation. Now, more than ever, might be a time to really take care of your mental health. Getting in touch with your general doctor might be a good place to start. It might not be possible for you to make trips to see a mental health specialist at the moment, but you might be able to have sessions over the phone or online. Your general doctor might be able to help connect you with services. If you ever need immediate help, please call the suicide prevention hotline if there is one available where you live. In the U.S., where I live, the number for the hotline is 1-(800) 273-8255. They might even be able to help you with getting regular counseling. 

Thanks for visiting, and let’s get through our challenges with mental illness together. Checkout the links below for more information on how to deal with mental illness:

Finding Help:

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Service Administration National Helpline: 

https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline

Dealing with Coronavirus related stress:

  • National Institute of Mental Health:

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/about/director/messages/2020/coping-with-coronavirus-managing-stress-fear-and-anxiety.shtml

– National Alliance on Mental Illness:

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/about/director/messages/2020/coping-with-coronavirus-managing-stress-fear-and-anxiety.shtml

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention:

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/managing-stress-anxiety.html

My Childhood Memories: A Love Letter to Spring

Hello everyone! I was tagged to participate in a 52 week challenge! This challenge, as you can probably tell from the picture accompanying this post, requires the blogger to write blog posts using the prompts provided for over a 52 week period. The prompts help the reader learn more about the blogger. To be honest, I’m not sure I’ll be able to cover all of the prompts, but I thought it might be fun to participate in this challenge. Also, I was challenged by a fellow blogger I really adore: LaFrieda Smith! She runs the blog MMM of Family Entertainment where she shares a little of her life and experiences, and uses them to inspire others. Our blogs and goals for them are very similar, and I feel that we are kindred spirits! Be sure to visit her inspiring blog! Click here to give it a read! Now on with the challenge!

This week’s post is going to be about my childhood memories, challenge 7. Yes, I’m doing my challenge posts a little out of order! Ideas for a blog post about the Spring season popped into my head recently and, since some of my childhood memories came to mind with those ideas, I decided to combine this post with one of my challenge posts! I always loved when Spring would come around growing up, and I have some wonderful memories of events that happened during this season. One of my favorite parts of Spring has always been watching the sun slowly stay out longer each day. Long nights was the one part of Winter I never liked. I also loved watching flowers bloom, and there are a lot of flowers around my neighborhood! One Spring, I walked around my neighborhood with my Dad taking pictures of the flowers while they were in bloom. Sadly, I lost the pictures, but I had lots fun just spending time with my Dad and looking at beautiful flowers. 

I also loved the weather during this time of year! I was able to wear my cute shoes and dresses again! I always felt so pretty in them! Plus, I was able to go outside during my lunch breaks in middle school! My middle school was connected to a park, and the students were allowed to go outside and play in it during lunch breaks. We were allowed to go outside during winter too whenever the weather wasn’t very bad, but a lot of my classmates often chose to stay indoors. Playing in the park was much more fun whenever it was a little warmer outside! The warmer weather also made walking to school much more fun, along with shopping and walking to church with my family! The church I went to when I was a child was a little far from my home, but my family never used to mind once spring came around! My siblings and I would always have fun talking and playing on our way there! 

Unfortunately, this Spring season is looking to be very different from many others with a pandemic sweeping across the world. Many of us are stuck indoors. However, if you live with family, now is a great time to make the most of your time together, and build more precious memories. 

I hope you all still manage to enjoy the season, and thankyou for visiting! See you in the next challenge post!