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Sisters no Matter the Color

There are a number of leading ladies throughout the Marvel Cinematic Universe. Some are beautiful love interests, some are relatives of the heroes, and some are heroes themselves. Two leading ladies that caught my attention are Cate Blanchet and Lupita Nyong’o.

When the first Lord of the Rings movie (The Fellowship of the Ring) was released, a close relative of mine was the first to see it. He told me about how much he enjoyed the movie, and that he couldn’t wait for part two. As he told me about the movie, he mentioned a good looking blond Elf (not Orlando Bloom), who became one of the protagonist’s many friends. 

For those not familiar with the world of the Lord of the Rings, the protagonist, Frodo Baggins, is tasked with carrying a ring that corrupts its wearers to a place where it can be destroyed. During his journey, he meets an elf named Galadriel. Galadriel gets temporarily corrupted by the ring, mentioning that the ring would make her a beautiful queen. 

“She was already very beautiful”, my relative said. When I finally got a chance to see the movie for myself, I had to agree with him. That is how I was first introduced to the actress Cate Blanchett. 

In 2013, the movie “Twelve Years a Slave” was released, with actress Lupita Nyong’o in the role of a slave named Patsey. It was Nyongo’s breakthrough role. She received many accolades for her performance, including an Academy Award. As a Black woman myself, I was very happy to see Nyong’o get the support and recognition she was receiving, and very excited to see what the future had in store for her. 

Cate Blanchet and Lupita Nyong’o are very different women from very different worlds. Blanchet is from England, Nyong’o is from Africa. Balnchet has very fair skin and silky hair, Nyong’o has very dark skin and fluffy hair. They are very different women, but are equally beautiful with equal value. 

The world is a rainbow, and no two people are exactly alike. Even twins have characteristics that set them apart. The world would be a completely boring place if everyone was completely the same. One thing we all have in common, however, is that we are all unique and have something special to offer. No person is better than another. We are all equals. We all deserve to feel like kings and queens, and it starts by seeing each other in that light. Regardless of your background you, dear reader, are my brother and sister. Thankyou for visiting. Until next time. 

Challenge 8: An Unforgettable Day

 A little girl woke up one morning with excitement bubbling in her chest. Today was a very special day. She was so excited she had a hard time sleeping the night before, and made sure she was up early in the morning. 

The small girl’s mother woke up early too to help her prepare for the day, and they started with getting her into her new lily white dress. The girl felt like an angel in it.

 Next, they moved on to the girl’s hair. The mother put her daughter’s hair in rollers the night before, and when she took the rollers out in the morning, beautiful curls fell around the daughter’s shoulders. The girl loved her curls, and couldn’t help wanting to put her fingers through them. Mom put hairspray over the curls to hold them, and told the daughter that if she wanted her hair to stay pretty for the entire day, she had to stop touching her hair! This was the first time the little girl remembered ever getting this dolled up, and when she looked into the mirror, she saw nothing but beauty.

After putting on white lace gloves to match her white dress, the small girl was ready to head through the door. When she reached her church, the girl happily threw rose petals when it was her turn to walk down the aisle. She looked on in awe as she watched the special lady of the day finally take her turn walking down the aisle, and watched tears of joy fall down down many faces as the lady and her new husband kissed. On her way to the reception party, the girl felt like a princess during her ride in the limo, and enjoyed drinking out of fancy glass cups at the reception dinner. 

The day was beautiful, and the girl had lots of fun. When she reached back home, the exhausted girl quickly went to sleep, eager for the day she would get to wear a white dress again and walk down an aisle.  

Until next time,

Charli

My Biggest Pet Peeve

Hello everyone! Remember my 52 week challenge posts? I sure hope you do, because I’m back with another one! I was on a pretty long hiatus, so I pretty much failed this challenge, but I still want to continue it! These posts are so much fun to write! This week’s challenge post is number 9, my biggest pet peeve! I thought a bit hard about this actually, because this topic required a bit of introspection. After giving this post some thought, I realized what might be one of my biggest pet peeves. 

According to American author Gary Chapman, there are five love languages. In other words, there are five different ways we give and receive love: acts of service (doing tasks for others), gift-giving, physical touch, quality time (giving some of your time to loved ones), and words of affirmation (hearing uplifting words). Every person generally uses all five love languages to express his or her love, and we enjoy receiving love through all five as well. However, there are usually some love languages that or more preferred than others, and it differs from person to person. We don’t really do a lot touching in my family, so I would say physical touch is pretty low on the list for us. We hug each other from time to time, but we don’t do much of any other types of casual touching (like putting our arms around each other’s shoulders for example). 

Since we don’t touch each other much, I’m not very used to being touched. Also, I’m used to a lot personal space, so whenever I’m talking with someone there’s usually a large amount of distance between us. My father knows this, and sometimes taps my shoulder knowing that will annoy me! This leads me to one of my biggest pet peeves (finally right?): taps on the shoulder!

Do you have a pet peeve? Share it in the comments! Also, if you would like to know your love language, take the Love Language quiz (My love language is Words of Affirmation)! The link is below! Have fun, and see you in the next post! 

Five Love Languages Quiz:

Marilyn Monroe and Ella Fitzgerald

Drunk History Episode “Legends” Season 4 Episode 2 by Comedy Central

How many of you have heard of Marilyn Monroe? How many of you have heard of Ella Fitzgerald? How many of you knew that these two legends were close friends? I first learned this fact through an episode of the show Drunk History. I found this little gem recently. It aired in 2016, so I’m late seeing it, but I thought the episode was pretty funny. I also thought there was a wonderful lesson that could be learned from it: sometimes we have more in common than we think.  

Checkout Drunk history video above, if you haven’t seen it already, to learn more about the friendship of two legends.

2021: My Hiatus and Looking Ahead

I know I’m late, but Happy 2021 everybody! Last year was definitely rough for everyone, so I hope you were all able to have a good start to the year! Here’s to hoping 2021 will be better and brighter!

I know I’ve been away for a while. I really needed the hiatus to focus, and my focus last year was on my holistic health, meaning my mental, physical, and spiritual health. I’ve reached a point in my life that I used to call “the pause button period”. Life slowed down a bit for me, and that left me feeling worthless and useless. My plans for my future were not coming to fruition like I wanted them to. Unexpected events started to send me on a downward spiral. I felt like a lot of stumbling blocks were being placed in my way. Then the pandemic started, and everything slowed down even more. It seemed like my life was put on pause. 

Little did I know that this pause was actually a blessing. As some of you probably already know, I finally decided to start seeing a therapist. Let me tell you, it’s a good thing that I’m at a slow point in my life right now, because one thing I learned from my sessions is that going through therapy is not easy! You have to work hard, and you have to practice a lot! Change is not going to happen over night! The job of the therapist is to give you the tools you need to mange your mental illness. Your job is to practice using those tools so that using them when you need them becomes second nature. In short, I had been neglecting my mental health slightly for years, and this break has given me a chance to fix that. 

This little hiatus period also allowed me to do a little introspection. I have been spending time asking myself a lot of questions trying plan my future and take control of my life. Taking the time to learn more about myself has been amazing and rewarding. They say that no one can love you better than you love yourself (one of my siblings keeps reminding me of that). I’ve always struggled with self-esteem, but I’m learning to love myself more and more each day. I’m also feeling genuinely happier these days. 

All in all, I’m heading in to the new year with a new attitude, new plans, and optimistic feelings. I hope you’ve all been enjoying the new year so far, and are feeling as optimistic as I am! Until new time!

  • Charli

#blackouttuesday — Nova’s Namastè 365 Online

I see you. I hear you. I cry with you. I hurt when you hurt. I hate the injustice, too. I stand with you. I stand for equality. I stand even if I receive backlash. I can walk streets without fear. I can wear clothes without fear. I can purchase at a store, at night… […]

#blackouttuesday — Nova’s Namastè 365 Online

From my beautiful friend Nova over at Nova Namaste 365 Online. Let’s stand in solidarity to build a world where we can all feel safe and equal; where we can notice differences, but appreciate and embrace as well. Love and peace everyone.

  • Charli Dee

Depression and Anxiety: The Start of a Recovery Journey

Hi everyone! 

For those who might not know, May is mental awareness health month! It just so happens that I’ve been working on taking care of my mental health during the month, which is why I’ve been a little inactive lately. I’ve recently met an awesome mental health blogger, Chaz from Mental Health 360! She kindly offered to let me write a guest post for her blog, which is about my struggles with my mental health! I’ve been sharing a little about my mental health struggles on my blog, and this latest post gives a more in depth look at my journey over the years! Click here to give the post a read! While you’re there, take a look around Caz’s blog! She’s a retired mental health professional, so you will find a lot of wonderful resources there! You can learn a lot from her blog! 

Remember that mental illness is nothing to be ashamed of. Take care of each other and yourselves.

Until next time,

– Charli

Ten Years from Now: Challenge 6

Ten years from now seems so far away, especially to someone who is trying to figure out what she might be doing even a year from now. I’m doing a bit of self-discovery right now. I’m not completely sure of where I want to be in life at the moment. With that being said, I’m not sure where I want to be in ten years.

The Coronavirus pandemic added to the uncertainty. Some of my plans I had for this year were put on hold because of the crisis, and I’m not sure when I can focus on them again. I’m sure I’m not the only one who is uncertain about the future because of the virus. Many people lost their jobs, and don’t know when they will be getting their next pay checks. 

As the saying goes, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail”. Planning is an important part of life, but so is uncertainty and unexpected events. As I mentioned earlier, I’m exploring. I don’t know what I will be doing ten years from now. I just hope that by then, I will feel more confident and sure of myself. Thanks for visiting! See you in the next challenge post! 

My Favorite Holiday: Thanking Essential Workers

Hello everyone, and welcome to my next challenge post! This post is about my favorite holiday, challenge number 5. I’ve actually done a post about my favorite holiday already, which is Thanksgiving!  It’s the day set aside for us to show appreciation for the blessings in our lives. If I had to say one thing I’m grateful for at the moment, I would say the essential workers risking their lives right now. 

My family and I have been self isolating for a couple of weeks now, and have been depending on delivery services. We have been getting our food and supplies through those services, and that is also how I’ve been getting my medicine. I’ve been pretty open about having Turner syndrome. It is a genetic disorder that can cause a whole host of complications. I have some of those complications, and I take medicine to manage most of them. Taking my medicine as prescribed is very essential in order for me to keep my health from deteriorating. I’m able to continue taking my medicine because of pharmacists, postal workers, and other essential workers who make it possible, the workers who go out and risk their lives.

Thankyou to the medical workers, postal workers, warehouse workers, store workers, and all the essential workers going out to work each day. Thankyou for all you are doing during this time of crisis. This post is for you. Until next time. 

Top Five Places I’d like to Visit

Hello again all, and welcome to the next post in my 52 week challenge! In this post, I will be talking about places I would love to visit! Considering travel is very restricted at the moment due to the coronavirus epidemic, the fact that the topic for my next blog post challenge is about travel is a little ironic. Hopefully we will see some normality in our day to day lives soon! In my blog posts and social media tags I have participated in before, I have often been asked about places that I have visited or would like to visit. For places that we have visited, my answer is always the same: I don’t travel much! For places I would like to visit, my answers tend to change slightly, because there are many places I would love to visit! Sometimes seeing pictures of certain places is just not enough! It’s good to visit and see the sights for yourself! Also, I love to write! Visiting different places and going through new experiences helps to open up creativity! Like I said, there are many places I would love to visit, however, I was only asked to name five! Below is my list of five out of many places I would love to see someday!

  1. Canada – I’ve always wanted to see Niagara Falls! They look so beautiful, and I would love to see them in person! I also want to see the Northern Lights, or the Aurora Borealis, and I know Canada is one of the places I can go to catch them! 

2. Spain – I can speak a little Spanish, but I would love to perfect this skill and become fluent! I’m sure visiting a country where the dominant language, or where one of the dominant languages, is Spanish would be very helpful, and Spain is one of those countries I would like to visit.

3. Costa Rica – I’ve heard great things about this country! The people are happy and healthy! In fact, some of the people there are so healthy that one area in Costa Rica is known as a “Blue Zone”! That area is Nicoya. Blue zones areas where people seem to live longer than average. Not only do the people live longer than average, they also live productive and active lives well into old age. This is not exactly the reason I want to visit Costa Rica though! I want to visit because this is another Spanish country I would like to stay in for a while to develop my Spanish speaking skills! Costa Rica also looks like a beautiful country for a relaxing vacation!

4. One the Caribbean Islands – I know this might seem like a cheat since I didn’t pick one island, but I just couldn’t pick just one! I would like to go to any one of the Caribbean islands, or as many as I can! Pretty much all of them are seen as great places for a vacation, and have beautiful beaches! The most talked about islands are generally Jamaica, the Bahamas, and Barbados. Maybe I’ll visit one those countries!

5. Japan – I’ve always loved learning about different cultures, and Japanese culture is one I’ve been particularly fascinated with for a long time. The Japanese Kimono (traditional Japanese dress) and Sakura trees (cherry blossom trees) are so beautiful to me. I would love to visit Japan and learn more about the country and visit some beautiful sites, maybe see some Sakura trees for myself. I would also love to try some traditional Japanese treats like Mochi (Japanese rice cakes), dango (Japanese dumplings), and red bean paste. Maybe while I’m in Japan I might learn how to speak a little Japanese! 

And those are my five places! What five places would you like to visit? Thanks for stopping by! See you in my next challenge post!