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My Favorite Holiday: Thanking Essential Workers

Hello everyone, and welcome to my next challenge post! This post is about my favorite holiday, challenge number 5. I’ve actually done a post about my favorite holiday already, which is Thanksgiving!  It’s the day set aside for us to show appreciation for the blessings in our lives. If I had to say one thing I’m grateful for at the moment, I would say the essential workers risking their lives right now. 

My family and I have been self isolating for a couple of weeks now, and have been depending on delivery services. We have been getting our food and supplies through those services, and that is also how I’ve been getting my medicine. I’ve been pretty open about having Turner syndrome. It is a genetic disorder that can cause a whole host of complications. I have some of those complications, and I take medicine to manage most of them. Taking my medicine as prescribed is very essential in order for me to keep my health from deteriorating. I’m able to continue taking my medicine because of pharmacists, postal workers, and other essential workers who make it possible, the workers who go out and risk their lives.

Thankyou to the medical workers, postal workers, warehouse workers, store workers, and all the essential workers going out to work each day. Thankyou for all you are doing during this time of crisis. This post is for you. Until next time. 

Top Five Places I’d like to Visit

Hello again all, and welcome to the next post in my 52 week challenge! In this post, I will be talking about places I would love to visit! Considering travel is very restricted at the moment due to the coronavirus epidemic, the fact that the topic for my next blog post challenge is about travel is a little ironic. Hopefully we will see some normality in our day to day lives soon! In my blog posts and social media tags I have participated in before, I have often been asked about places that I have visited or would like to visit. For places that we have visited, my answer is always the same: I don’t travel much! For places I would like to visit, my answers tend to change slightly, because there are many places I would love to visit! Sometimes seeing pictures of certain places is just not enough! It’s good to visit and see the sights for yourself! Also, I love to write! Visiting different places and going through new experiences helps to open up creativity! Like I said, there are many places I would love to visit, however, I was only asked to name five! Below is my list of five out of many places I would love to see someday!

  1. Canada – I’ve always wanted to see Niagara Falls! They look so beautiful, and I would love to see them in person! I also want to see the Northern Lights, or the Aurora Borealis, and I know Canada is one of the places I can go to catch them! 

2. Spain – I can speak a little Spanish, but I would love to perfect this skill and become fluent! I’m sure visiting a country where the dominant language, or where one of the dominant languages, is Spanish would be very helpful, and Spain is one of those countries I would like to visit.

3. Costa Rica – I’ve heard great things about this country! The people are happy and healthy! In fact, some of the people there are so healthy that one area in Costa Rica is known as a “Blue Zone”! That area is Nicoya. Blue zones areas where people seem to live longer than average. Not only do the people live longer than average, they also live productive and active lives well into old age. This is not exactly the reason I want to visit Costa Rica though! I want to visit because this is another Spanish country I would like to stay in for a while to develop my Spanish speaking skills! Costa Rica also looks like a beautiful country for a relaxing vacation!

4. One the Caribbean Islands – I know this might seem like a cheat since I didn’t pick one island, but I just couldn’t pick just one! I would like to go to any one of the Caribbean islands, or as many as I can! Pretty much all of them are seen as great places for a vacation, and have beautiful beaches! The most talked about islands are generally Jamaica, the Bahamas, and Barbados. Maybe I’ll visit one those countries!

5. Japan – I’ve always loved learning about different cultures, and Japanese culture is one I’ve been particularly fascinated with for a long time. The Japanese Kimono (traditional Japanese dress) and Sakura trees (cherry blossom trees) are so beautiful to me. I would love to visit Japan and learn more about the country and visit some beautiful sites, maybe see some Sakura trees for myself. I would also love to try some traditional Japanese treats like Mochi (Japanese rice cakes), dango (Japanese dumplings), and red bean paste. Maybe while I’m in Japan I might learn how to speak a little Japanese! 

And those are my five places! What five places would you like to visit? Thanks for stopping by! See you in my next challenge post!

Uplifting words

In this time of hardship with the COVID19 pandemic, remember that trails make us stronger. Let’s try to be each other’s strength, and lift each other up during this trying time. Stay strong and stay safe. Praying for all who have suffering with the virus, those with family members suffering with the virus, and all the workers and volunteers who are risking their lives.

Meet my Favorite Things

Hello everyone! Welcome back to another challenge post! This week’s post will be about my favorite things, challenge number two! My favorite things are my books and my journals. I mentioned on my blog and social media many times how much I love reading and writing. They’ve been two of my favorite activities since I was a small child. My parents even told I tried reading a newspaper upside down when I was a baby. 

Reading and writing go hand in hand, and that is very much the case for me. I always enjoyed the different ways authors shared their stories. I loved getting lost in the thoughts of the characters and what they thought about themselves, each other, and their surroundings. I grew to love and appreciate writing as a form of expression, and as I grew older I realized I express myself best through writing. Communication is second nature to many of us. It’s done so naturally. For others, not so much. When talking with someone in person, I sometimes struggle to express myself. I often have repeat myself in conversations, because I tend to mumble, and that’s when I actually decide to speak. Whenever I’m writing, however, I have a completely different experience. I’m not shy one bit, and my thoughts flow freely. I feel uninhibited, free to be myself. It is a wonderful feeling. 

And those are my favorite things! Thanks for visiting! Feel free to share some of your favorite things in the comments if you like, and stay tuned for my next challenge post!

Mental Health 2: Meeting my Mental Health Specialists

Around the end of January, I mentioned in a recent post that I visited a mental health clinic. I was given an appointment to see a psychologist  and psychiatrist two weeks after my walk-in visit. For those who don’t know, a psychologist specializes in counseling and therapy. A psychiatrist focuses on treating mental illnesses mainly through medication. When I met with my therapist, she asked more questions to learn a little bit more about me, why I was seeking counseling, and what I wanted to get out of counseling. She was so understanding, and talked with me about the type of therapy I would be receiving and how it can help me. 

That same week, I also met with my psychiatrist. She asked questions as well, and patiently talked with me about treatment options (whether or not to take medication, types of medications she recommended, etc). Both my therapist and psychiatrist immediately diagnosed me with Major Depressive Disorder. I was very nervous at the start of the visits, as I have never received treatment for a mental illness before, but my therapist and psychiatrist made me feel extremely comfortable. I even cried more like during my first visit to the clinic. After talking with them, I finally realized how overdo these visits were. I feel like I’m finally taking control.

If you feel that you also need help with your mental health, please reach out for assistance. You might be happy you did. Right now, the world is going through a pandemic, and many people are in isolation. Now, more than ever, might be a time to really take care of your mental health. Getting in touch with your general doctor might be a good place to start. It might not be possible for you to make trips to see a mental health specialist at the moment, but you might be able to have sessions over the phone or online. Your general doctor might be able to help connect you with services. If you ever need immediate help, please call the suicide prevention hotline if there is one available where you live. In the U.S., where I live, the number for the hotline is 1-(800) 273-8255. They might even be able to help you with getting regular counseling. 

Thanks for visiting, and let’s get through our challenges with mental illness together. Checkout the links below for more information on how to deal with mental illness:

Finding Help:

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Service Administration National Helpline: 

https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline

Dealing with Coronavirus related stress:

  • National Institute of Mental Health:

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/about/director/messages/2020/coping-with-coronavirus-managing-stress-fear-and-anxiety.shtml

– National Alliance on Mental Illness:

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/about/director/messages/2020/coping-with-coronavirus-managing-stress-fear-and-anxiety.shtml

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention:

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/managing-stress-anxiety.html

My Childhood Memories: A Love Letter to Spring

Hello everyone! I was tagged to participate in a 52 week challenge! This challenge, as you can probably tell from the picture accompanying this post, requires the blogger to write blog posts using the prompts provided for over a 52 week period. The prompts help the reader learn more about the blogger. To be honest, I’m not sure I’ll be able to cover all of the prompts, but I thought it might be fun to participate in this challenge. Also, I was challenged by a fellow blogger I really adore: LaFrieda Smith! She runs the blog MMM of Family Entertainment where she shares a little of her life and experiences, and uses them to inspire others. Our blogs and goals for them are very similar, and I feel that we are kindred spirits! Be sure to visit her inspiring blog! Click here to give it a read! Now on with the challenge!

This week’s post is going to be about my childhood memories, challenge 7. Yes, I’m doing my challenge posts a little out of order! Ideas for a blog post about the Spring season popped into my head recently and, since some of my childhood memories came to mind with those ideas, I decided to combine this post with one of my challenge posts! I always loved when Spring would come around growing up, and I have some wonderful memories of events that happened during this season. One of my favorite parts of Spring has always been watching the sun slowly stay out longer each day. Long nights was the one part of Winter I never liked. I also loved watching flowers bloom, and there are a lot of flowers around my neighborhood! One Spring, I walked around my neighborhood with my Dad taking pictures of the flowers while they were in bloom. Sadly, I lost the pictures, but I had lots fun just spending time with my Dad and looking at beautiful flowers. 

I also loved the weather during this time of year! I was able to wear my cute shoes and dresses again! I always felt so pretty in them! Plus, I was able to go outside during my lunch breaks in middle school! My middle school was connected to a park, and the students were allowed to go outside and play in it during lunch breaks. We were allowed to go outside during winter too whenever the weather wasn’t very bad, but a lot of my classmates often chose to stay indoors. Playing in the park was much more fun whenever it was a little warmer outside! The warmer weather also made walking to school much more fun, along with shopping and walking to church with my family! The church I went to when I was a child was a little far from my home, but my family never used to mind once spring came around! My siblings and I would always have fun talking and playing on our way there! 

Unfortunately, this Spring season is looking to be very different from many others with a pandemic sweeping across the world. Many of us are stuck indoors. However, if you live with family, now is a great time to make the most of your time together, and build more precious memories. 

I hope you all still manage to enjoy the season, and thankyou for visiting! See you in the next challenge post! 

Joining Forces with World Supermoms: Embrace the Superhero in you

I am so excited to announce that I am collaborating with World Supermoms! With so many expectations on women and mothers, it can be difficult to be a woman! However, there is no such thing as the ideal woman or mother. World Supermoms is a nonprofit organization that uses their platform to help each mother and woman in general embrace what makes her special and unique. Recently, Supermoms reached out to me to republish one of my blog posts! That blog post is Imperfectly Perfect: My life with Turner Syndrome. This is perfect timing, since February happens to be Turner Syndrome Awareness Month! I am very proud of that post, and I am so honored that World Moms enjoyed it enough to republish it! If you haven’t taken a look at that post yet, visit World Supermoms to give it a look! Click here to read the post! Thank for this opportunity World Supermoms, and thankyou to my readers for visiting! Until next time! 

– Charli

Mental Illness: Nothing to be Ashamed of

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During my time in college, the disability office at my school held a career day for students with disabilities. I decided to attend, and one of my siblings went with me. Each student who decided to participate in the career day was given a mentor that they spent the day with. Some of us were put in groups and shared a mentor. Since I seemed to show an interest in social science, my mentors were psychologists. My sibling was not a student of the school I was attending, nor were they a student with special needs, however, they were allowed to participate with me. My mentors started the day with a presentation that focused on facts about counseling and therapy. “What would you say is the number one reason some people don’t see a counselor when they need help?”, one of the psychologists began. “Fear”, my sibling responded. The counselor replied that my sibling was correct.

Many people who need help often fear the stigma that comes with mental illness and needing psychological help. That same fear is part of what kept me from finally getting help myself. I’ve mentioned in a previous post that I’ve been dealing with low self-esteem for most of my life. There are many times when I’ve reached low points, and those low points were sometimes terrible enough for me to consider seeking professional help. I did contemplate seeking help after one of my episodes, but I decided against it. A couple of days ago, I had another episode and I decided enough is enough. It was time for me to finally look for help, and I started searching for a mental health clinic. 

I was very nervous while trying to find a psychology clinic to go to, but I knew I had to go through with this. I finally found a clinic after a few days, and I was told that first time patients had to show up as walk-ins. I visited the clinic about two weeks ago, and my time there wasn’t very long at all. When I showed up, I was given an assessment form. There were a lot of questions, but this is the case with first time patients at nearly any clinic. After I finished the assessment, one of the specialists looked over it before talking with me briefly and asking me a few questions. The specialist was very kind. At first, I was a little nervous to talk to her, but she made me feel so comfortable, and I ended up opening up to her easily. I even cried while talking to her, which is something I don’t really like doing in front of others. After our talk, she made sure I was ok to go home before making an appointment for me, and she made sure that I would be seen again very soon. My appointment is for this week, which is just two weeks after I visited the clinic as a walk-in patient.

I’m sharing this to say that there is no shame in admitting you need help. There’s no shame in going to counseling. Hopefully sharing this might help someone, and I plan to continue sharing my journey. This might become a series, so stay tuned and thank you for visiting!

Disability Part 2: Nonverbal Learning Disability

Welcome to my first blog post of the year! The topic of this post is one that has been on my mind for some time. I have shared my experience as a person with a disability on my blog before, but I have had yet to go in to detail about what my disability is. Issues that people with disabilities face is one topic that I am passionate about, and one of the reasons I started this blog. I want to raise awareness on the issues we face. In this post, I want to discuss learning disability, and raise awareness on a little known type learning disability called nonverbal learning disability. 

If I were to tell a friend that I caught a cold, they would know exactly what I am going through. Chances are that I am dealing with a cough, a sneeze, and a runny nose. A name and a diagnosis leads to understanding. That type of understanding was what I craved for growing up, and what i’m still looking for in my adulthood years. I came close to that when I was diagnosed with Turner syndrome in my early teen years, and when I was officially diagnosed with learning disability in early adulthood. However, it’s not enough.

In previous posts, I have mentioned that I’ve recognized how different I am from my peers from the time I was a very small child. My Turner syndrome diagnosis answered a lot of questions for me, especially when I started to do a little research on the condition. I found that girls with Turner syndrome often have learning difficulties, and when I was diagnosed with learning disability, I was relieved to finally have a name for what I was experiencing. However, the diagnosis was Learning Disability NOS, NOS meaning not otherwise specified. Learning disability is a catch all term for a group of neurologically-based processing conditions. According to Learning Disabilities Association of America

These processing problems can interfere with learning basic skills such as reading, writing and/or math. They can also interfere with higher level skills such as organization, time planning, abstract reasoning, long or short term memory and attention. It is important to realize that learning disabilities can affect an individual’s life beyond academics and can impact relationships with family, friends and in the workplace” .             

Examples of different types of leaning disabilities are

As already mentioned, learning disability is a general catch all term. “Not Otherwise Specified” is also a general term, and is often used to give a general, nonspecific diagnosis. When someone is given a diagnosis of learning disability NOS, it means the psychologist doing the testing recognizes the patient has learning difficulties, but can not pinpoint what his or her specific learning disability might be. As happy as I was to have a diagnosis, I still wished I could have gotten a diagnosis that was a little more specific and provided more answers. However, I understand why I was given the general diagnosis. Out of all the learning disabilities that I mentioned before, the only one that is not considered an official condition is nonverbal learning disability.

According to the U.S. National Organization for Rare Diseases, girls with Turner syndrome often “have difficulties with directional sense, learning math, nonverbal memory and attention. Affected females may also experience difficulty in certain social situations”. Most of the symptoms mentioned are symptoms that I have, and are also symptoms of people with nonverbal learning disability. Unfortunately, learning disabilities like dyscalculia and nonverbal learning disability do not get as much attention as language based learning disabilities that cause issues with communication, reading, and writing. Moreover, nonverbal learning disability is not included in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, which is now on it’s fifth edition (DSM-5), therefore psychologists can not use the condition as an official diagnosis. Another issue is that since people with nonverbal learning disability often have issues with nonverbal communication and poor social skills, the condition is often compared to Aspergers Disorder. Nonverbal learning disability is also compared to Autism and ADHD, and children with NLD are often diagnosed with one of those conditions, which some experts believe does an injustice to the patients because they don’t get the help they really need with the wrong diagnosis

Do I have nonverbal learning disability? Would be I diagnosed with the condition if it was recognized as an official condition? I’m not entirely sure. All I know is that I do have many of the symptoms recognized as symptoms of people with NLD. If It were to be made an official condition, then maybe there would be more answers. More answers means learning more about oneself, and learning how to handle struggles due to disability, and learning how to advocate for yourself, starts there.